Myth: Stress is why you’re not conceiving
It’s kind of the other way: Not getting pregnant is likely why you’re stressed, but it’s definitely not the cause of it. “Infertility is a disease or condition of the reproductive system,” says Barbara Collura, President/CEO, RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association; it’s not a psychological disorder. That said, if you want to book a full-body massage or, even better, a Caribbean vacation to help you relax, by all means. It may certainly improve your overall well-being, but it isn’t going to get you pregnant any faster. Or just give one of these stress management tips a try.
Myth: So many couples make babies in no time
Those are the ones you hear about—your friend who ooops-conceived right after her honeymoon or your sister who decided one day to start a family and got preggers the next. They’re not lying; for some women, it happens like that. But what you should also realize is that more than 5 million people of childbearing age in America experience infertility, according to RESOLVE. “That’s one in eight couples who may not be as public about it as your pregnant friends,” says Collura.
Myth: Patience will get you pregnant
Certain conditions and health factors can impact a couples ability to make a baby. If either one of you smoke, for example, your chances of conceiving are lower. For women, being under- or overweight or excessive alcohol use may make it difficult to get pregnant. And of course, age is a big one: A healthy 30-year-old woman has about a 20 percent chance of getting pregnant each month, according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine; by age 40, the chances drop to about 5 percent a month. The virtue of patience is nowhere on that list. If you’ve been trying to conceive for a year or more, ask about an infertility evaluation, suggests the American Society for Reproductive Medicine. For women older than 35 years old, the “trying” time is reduced to 6 months before considering seeing a specialist.