Move to a new city
Though there is something to be said about loving your hometown—if you’ve never lived anywhere else, why not give it a try? While it will take some planning—like where to work and where to call home—even if it’s just for a few months, living someplace new will give you a new perspective on yourself, the country, and how you develop friendships.
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It is never too late to become what you dream of. Ellyn Schinke, life coach and author, says there is power in finally deciding to be that person, whomever he or she is. “Our past and our limiting beliefs convince us that this is who we are and we can’t change. But sometimes we’re presented with opportunities where re-inventing ourselves and re-defining our labels is completely possible,” she explains. “We have to decide that the risk of re-inventing ourselves into the person we want to be is worth it—doing, saying, and becoming things that we’re not comfortable with or used to.”
Spend more time alone
You might not be awarded with much of it these days, especially if you have kiddos in the house, but Koffman stresses the importance of solo adventuring, even if, hey, it just means locking the bathroom door and listening to a podcast or taking an extra hour for a coffee and reading a book while you’re off the hook during a playdate. This helps you be who you are—and value the qualities that make you, you. “By age 40 everyone should learn to enjoy their own company and love their alone time,” she says.