Love yourself and you're set
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comLady Gaga's elaborate and exhilarating halftime performance at the 2017 Super Bowl left millions—117.5 million to be exact!—in absolute awe of her incredible talent. Unfortunately, it also left a small percentage of people with the need to throw shame her way for her appearance. The "Million Reasons" singer responded with grace and positivity. In an Instagram post shortly after, she wrote "I heard my body is a topic of conversation so I wanted to say, I'm proud of my body and you should be proud of yours too. No matter who you are or what you do. I could give you a million reasons why you don't need to cater to anyone or anything to succeed. Be you, and be relentlessly you. That's the stuff of champions. thank you so much everyone for supporting me. I love you guys. Xoxo, gaga." We love these 30 tricks for instantly boosting your self-confidence.
Find your strength
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comAfter Kelly Roberts' brother died from acute alcohol poisoning when she was 16 years old, she started to put on weight. She took to running to help her shed the extra pounds. To track her journey and motivate others, she started her blog Run, Selfie, Repeat, as well as several movements, one of them the #SportsBraSquad, which involved her wearing just a sports bra as a top during her runs. This helped her feel more confident in her body and Roberts truly thought that was all that mattered, until one hater decided to share his particularly cruel opinion. In an email, he wrote, "Fatness is (when not genetic) a symptom of the excesses of modernized, industrialized society and not something to flaunt." Her response shut him up for good. "Once upon a time, your words would have cut me like Valyrian steel. Today? They remind me how important it is to change the way we see strength. Because what you call fat, I know can run a marathon in 3 hours in 41 minutes. I hope one day you can obtain the strength I've worked tirelessly for. Until then, know that I will spend the rest of my life empowering the women you hope to shame." Find out science-backed tricks to boosting your self-confidence.
Healthy is the new skinny
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comEveryone knows Ashley Graham—both for her plus-size supermodel title and her outspoken commitment to standing up against body shaming. So there was no chance she wouldn't snap back at a negative comment she received on a post of her working out in the gym. In a separate post, Graham addressed the haters, saying, "Every time I post a workout video I get comments like, 'You'll never be skinny, so stop trying,' 'Don't workout too hard, you'll get skinny,' 'You still need to be fat to be a model,' and 'Why would you want to lose what made you famous?'" she wrote via Instagram. "Just for the record, I work out to: stay healthy, feel good, get rid of jet lag, clear my head, show big girls we can move like the rest of 'em, stay flexible and strong, have more energy…I don't work out to lose weight or my curves, [because] I love the skin I'm in…" Find out more body confidence tricks from plus-size models.
Keep your comments to yourself
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comAfter Charli Stevens, a mom of two from Ohio, was body-shamed by a stranger in the least likely of all places, her local grocery store, she took to Facebook to share her thoughts and utter shock. While she was perusing the aisles, she noticed a woman staring at her. Like most, she hates when people stare—it's rude—but she let it go only to experience the woman coming up to her a few minutes later to say "I think your clothes are a little too small on you." Stevens was totally caught off guard and didn't even know how to respond. All she got out was an "Excuse me?" "Well no offense but you're just a bit big to wear those type of clothes," the woman continued. Stevens fled the store and ended up crying in her car. Once she got home, however, she took to Facebook to post about her experience and added her own thoughts on the matter. In the post, which has since gone viral, she wrote, "How are people so rude? It's no secret that I've gained weight throughout life. I've birthed two kids so it's bound to happen. Do I realize I'm overweight? Yes. Do I want to be smaller? Yes. But am I okay with the way I look? Yes!!"
#TheySaid campaigners shed light
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comAnyone who's ever dealt with a hint of body shaming knows that it always starts because someone chooses to open their mouth and say something—something hurtful; something obscene; something beyond unnecessary. Whatever it is that was said is often left ringing in the ear of the person objectified by the statement. That's why—and how—the #TheySaid campaign was started on Twitter. Using this hashtag, women (and men alike) shared the words, phrases, or statements that they have been told about how their body isn't good enough or should change. "'If you're chubby all the boys are going to run away,' an uncle told me that when I was 11 years of age. #TheySaid," one campaigner posted.
Even supermodels have self-doubt
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comIt's hard to believe someone that's a supermodel could be the victim of cruel body shaming, but such was the case when trolls attacked Gigi Hadid during New York Fashion Week in 2018. In a long and detailed post on Twitter in response to those who called her fat, Hadid explained that she has a condition called Hashimoto's disease, which can lead to an underactive thyroid, a slow metabolism, and inflammation. "Judgment on social media comes from people who, 99% of the time, have no idea what they're talking about, but I'm human, and I'm not going to lie, I did let the negativity get to me a little," she wrote. "No, I don't have the same body type as the other models in the shows. No, I don't think I'm the best at any given show. Yes, I want to have a unique walk, but I also know I have to improve. No, I'm not the first or the last model of my type in this industry."
Your body is your canvas—no one else's
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comInspiring Instagrammer Nicole Hicks shed an incredible 200 pounds and has shared her weight-loss journey candidly with her 181,000+ followers. She's honest, real, and beautiful in her own skin—that's what so many love about her. So when she started seeing so many negative comments in response to the impressive transformation photos she posted to show her results, she was fired up and ready to respond. "So when I was 430+ pounds you were making fun of me and now that I lost over 200 pounds and building my body the way I want to you still got issues?" she wrote. She went on to give advice to her thousands of followers whom she didn't want to be dismayed by the negativity she was receiving. "This one is for my sisters and brothers that are just starting out their journey! Don't you EVER let someone tell you how your body should look!! I'm going to continue growing this body... so stay tuned. How about we support everyone! No matter what their goals are?? Now that's an idea!" This 30-minute workout can help to boost your body image.
"Natural" means original
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comThe actress and model Karrueche Tran wasn't afraid to call out the haters, even if that meant clapping back at a famous rapper. After she posted a mirror selfie showing off her toned body in a bathing suit, rapper Ralo took to the comments to say "U looks better wit clothes on." Tran wasn't about to let this go; she quipped back and made an impactful point about the entire rap industry along with it. "Ya'll shame natural bodies but praise fake ones," she wrote. She then went on to post about how constant judging is what makes self-love so difficult.
"I don't like you"
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comThe 24-year-old South African plus-size model, body-positive activist, and photographer Lesego Legobane wasn't about to let a meme creator get away with insulting her body in a side-by-side comparison to another model. Legobane's friend texted her to let her know that Twitter user ThickLeeYonce, creator of the meme titled "Girls I like vs Girls that like me" had featured her in his latest post. He compared a photo of a very skinny model under the words "girls I like" and featured Legobane under the words "girls that like me." Legobane's response? A simple tweet saying "I don't like you." Bam! Read these myths about fat that are keeping you from losing weight.
No one gets to make comments about your body
Nicole Fornabaio/Rd.comWhen model and doula Imogen Ker was invited to a friend's housewarming party, the last topic of conversation she expected to be on the table was not only about her physical appearance but about her actual body. She was totally shell-shocked to hear one man, who didn't even know her for the record, tell the host, "Imogen would be perfect if it wasn't for her body." "It was almost like in his head he was complimenting me, but the insinuation was... because I was physically unappealing to him, I wasn't good enough as a person," she told Shape. What happened next, Ker regrets—she let it go—but it bothered her so much that days later, she got his number from her friend and texted him to let him know exactly how is objectifying comments made her feel. "I'm a confident girl. And I understand how that could make you think that I would be able to hear something like that. But you don't get to make comments about my body. Nobody does," she wrote.