You gotta give a little to get a little
“The best way to get someone to give you respect is to show respect to them first. Think about something you can appreciate about the other person. It can even be something inconsequential like their choice of clothing or colors, their laugh, their eyes. Then concentrate on what it is you like; they’ll see respect in your eyes and it will likely come right back to you.” —Elayne Savage, PhD, relationship and workplace coach, author of Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection
Flip-flopping is a good thing
“I have a lot of clients who are anxious or overwhelmed so I teach them to play the ‘flip the thought’ game. Anxious people often go through catastrophic ‘what if’ scenarios, so I flip them and we go through the same scenario but with the best possible ending. Your body reacts to situations both real and imagined, so by flipping the thought we change how we feel and act.” —Gretchen Hydo, life and business coach at Any Lengths Life Coaching and author of the advice column #AskGretchen. Find out the things you need for emotional intelligence.
Don’t compromise your values—ever
“We all have values in different areas of life and when we make decisions that are not in alignment with those values, we sabotage our journey and eliminate passion and happiness. For example, if wanting to be respected is one of your values and your boss disrespects you at work, you will probably never be happy in that position. Honoring your values sometimes takes huge leaps of faith but when you do you find that life works out for the better almost every time.” —Paul Colaianni, personal empowerment coach and author of The Overwhelmed Brain: Personal Growth For Critical Thinkers