They stay mindful
Genetics and upbringing are heavy forces in determining whether you are a naturally calm or anxious person, but it’s not the final word. Research shows that the brain and nervous system are flexible. No matter how you are “wired” to react to stress, continued practice can bring your level of everyday anxiety down a notch. “You can shift the needle toward calmness,” says Emiliana Simon-Thomas, PhD, the science director of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley. One of the best mental habits to cultivate is to focus on the present moment. Thinking about the past and future can greatly diminish how you feel right now. “We worry about possibilities that aren’t as threatening as we imagine them to be, “ says Simon-Thomas. Mindfulness will help you realize that life in real time—this particular moment—is not a threat. These mini meditations can banish stress from your brain.
They maintain an “I’m lucky” attitude
People who are naturally calm also feel a sense of gratitude. They might say things to themselves such as, “I’m so happy my mother watched my kids yesterday so I could have a date night.” To practice feeling grateful gives someone the ability to think about all the good things in their lives, notes Simon-Thomas. And most importantly, it shifts the mental state from scarcity into one of abundance and support.