Holding a grudge
Chances are pretty good that something happened in the past year that really upset you. (And if not, share your well-centered secrets with the rest of us!) Whether a friend betrayed you, a family member lied to you, or a stranger on the Internet viciously attacked you, it can be really tough to let those painful feelings go. But, as the old adage goes, refusing to forgive is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die. Start your new year fresh by doing whatever it takes to let go of those painful feelings and move past the hurt. See a therapist, talk to a clergy person, or meditate.
Picking a fight
Sometimes you are the wronged party, but other times you are the one perpetrating the wrong. Or, more often than not, you’re both partly wrong. But regardless of anyone else’s actions and whether or not you choose to admit it in the moment, you know when you’ve done a bad thing. So say you’re sorry. Apologizing is hard… but not as hard as letting the argument carry over into a whole new year, to grow and metastasize until it kills your relationship. If you can’t say it verbally, start with an “I’m sorry” note, email, or text. These are the New Year’s resolutions you shouldn’t make.