10 Questions You Shouldn’t Ask a New Mom
New mothers already have enough on their plate.
1. When are you due?
It’s a seemingly harmless question, except when asked to a hormonal new mother two weeks after giving birth.
3. Is it a boy or girl?
If the little one’s name doesn’t make it obvious and the baby isn’t wearing pink or blue, it’s ok. You’ll figure this out soon enough without having to ask.
4. Are you breastfeeding?
The last thing a new mother needs is a guilt trip over how she’s feeding her baby. Besides, it’s really not your business.
6. Are you getting any sleep?
If the baby is a few weeks old, the answer to this question will always be no. Sleep deprivation is a normal — and expected — part of being a new mother.
7. Are you planning to go back to work?
This question can be rephrased in a number of ways: Can you afford to be a full-time stay-at-home mom? How will you possibly be able to leave your baby with a stranger? How are you going to manage working and having a kid? Just don’t go there and you’ll both escape the stress this question will cause.
9. Are you sure you should be going to the (fill in the blank) with the baby?
Having an infant doesn’t mean you’ve been put under house arrest. Sometimes, all a new mom wants is a chance to get out of the house without being judged. At times, just going to the supermarket with my newborn son (exciting, right?) was all the change of scenery I needed.
10. Are you planning on having another?
I really couldn’t imagine this right after giving birth. Please don’t ask.