The 10 Commandments of Emotionally Coping With Breast Cancer
Updated: Mar. 16, 2022A breast-cancer survivor’s tips on how to avoid judgmental people, deal with a crazy swirl of emotions, and more.
Thou shalt give thyself time to think
When you’re diagnosed, you may feel like you have to do something right now. You don’t. Take a deep breath. Slow the spinning in your head before you make any decisions. These are signs of breast cancer you’re probably ignoring.
Thou shalt honor thy own feelings, whether shiny and happy or tired or angry or scared
And don’t be surprised to feel all these things within the space of 15 minutes, several times a day. These proven habits will prevent breast cancer.
Thou shalt not judge thy neighbor’s treatment or reconstruction choices or attitude
I have not seen people in the breast cancer community judge each other. The real armchair quarterbacks are those who have never been through it. Some think you should overcome your fluffy pink cancer by being all upbeat or that you should feel grateful for some life lesson. That’s a big fail. But you may be the naturally optimistic type. You may actually be grateful. That’s OK too. Telling you how you should feel about your diagnosis is like saying you should be six feet tall or have brown eyes. Don’t worry, you can safely ignore these common myths about breast cancer.
Thou shalt love thyself as thy neighbor
We women are so darn hard on ourselves. Give yourself the same break you would a loved one going through a big diagnosis. These are breast cancer symptoms that aren’t lumps.
Thou shalt allow others to help thee
Your family and friends want to be able to do something for you; let them.
Thou shalt not bear false witness against science
You may or may not decide on a certain course of treatment. (See Commandment 3.) You may or may not have a good experience. Others can learn from an honest recounting of your experiences, but that doesn’t make you a medical expert. Celebrities have a special responsibility here.
