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11 Subtle Signs Your Cat Is Depressed

Is your aloof, fickle feline just being a cat? Or is there something more going on? Here's how to tell.

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Swishing and twitching its tail

An upset cat has a major tell: Its tail. A happy kitty’s tail moves like a soft feather duster, but a sad or depressed cat may issue quick, hard strikes with its tail, says Danielle Bernal, a veterinarian with Wellness Natural Pet Food. Do a little investigating to find the source of their discomfort. “Cats are creatures of habit and do not like change, so start by addressing any recent changes,” she says. Need more help decoding your kitty’s wishes? Check out these 17 things your cat wishes it could tell you.

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Suddenly becoming needy

Cats are known for being aloof, independent, and moody, but in reality, every cat has its own personality, and it’s a change you need to be most concerned about, Dr. Bernal says. “Many cat owners talk about how their cat curls up in their lap, smooches them in the morning, and is the perfect companion,” she says. “Should this suddenly change, then don’t put it down to the fact she is just being a cat—it may be the first sign that they are depressed.” Is your pet on edge? These are the main reasons your cat might be cranky. 

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Swiping and scratching at your hand

Ah, the ol’ sneaky scratch-n-swipe, used by cats everywhere to show their displeasure with what’s happening! “When your feline friend resorts to the claws coming out and a quick swipe in frustration, you will know its mood is going down,” Dr. Bernal says. It doesn’t mean your cat is innately cranky or chronically depressed, just that it’s having a tough moment. Handle them like you would a sad child. “Nothing makes a cat calm down more than time with you,” she says. Watch out for these other 15 signs your cat is secretly mad at you.

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Climbing the walls

Unlike their human counterparts, cats literally go off the wall (and on) when they’re upset. This bad behavior, particularly when they have been properly trained to follow your house rules, can be a sign of depression. Their bad mood might be stemming from boredom, so make sure you’re providing plenty of stimulation for a depressed cat (or any cat, for that matter), Dr. Bernal says. “Make sure your home looks like a cat lives there—cat toys, climbing trees, cozy beds, toys, and scratching posts,” she says. “It lets the cat have its own space and feel like part of the household, and having its things to snooze in or play with will do just that.” But avoid these 12 dangerous mistakes cat owners should never make.

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Pining away at the window

When you’re gone, your cat misses you, plain and simple—and that can turn into depression if you’re gone often. It is a common misconception that cats are indifferent to humans; in fact, they want to bond with their owners and be included as a member of the family, says Brian Ogle, PhD, assistant professor of anthrozoology at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida. Many times, humans do not interact enough with their cats because of this misconception, he says. Engaging in active play on a regular basis helps to solidify the bond between human and cat (not to mention make both of you feel warm and fuzzy inside), he adds. If your cat is sick, learn how to give it a pill.

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Pooping in strange places

If your kitty is defecating in places other than their litter box, it can be a sign of an underlying medical issue, a situational problem, or depression. It’s vitally important that you react in a positive way (even if that’s the last thing you feel when you step on a fresh pile of cat feces), Dr. Ogle says. “Because they are solitary animals, they lack the cognitive capability to interpret subtle social cues or to connect negative punishment to their specific action,” he says. Instead, use positive reinforcement to help a depressed cat and make sure its litter box is clean and easily accessible.

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Ignoring loved ones

Avoiding people isn’t necessarily a sign your cat is depressed, but turning away from you or ignoring you can be, says Kelly Hayes-Raitt, cat behavior specialist and author of How to Become a Housesitter. “When my cat didn’t like the man I was dating, he’d sit in a corner and face the wall, refusing to even look at me,” she says, adding it was a clear sign he was unhappy. Her solution: Don’t force interaction—a depressed cat will come around to new people when it’s good and ready.

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Hissing and spitting

When you see the stereotypical signs of a “mad cat”—hissing, spitting, back arched, claws out—it isn’t so much a sign of anger as it is their way of saying they are generally upset. “To deal with this behavior, I ignore the cat until she gets used to me and can see I’m not a threat,” she says. “I leave her alone in her sleeping area and after a bit, she will usually warm up to me and refrain from hissing.” Find out why purring doesn’t always mean your cat is happy to see you.

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Turning your furniture into a scratching post

If your cat isn’t normally a destroyer of furniture but has recently started shredding your drapes, your kitty could be stressed out, which may look like depression to worried human owners, says animal communication expert Karen Miura. She also recommends using a cat pheromone diffuser or spray to calm down your pet naturally. Learn why cats knead soft surfaces.

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Spraying your walls

Cats are very territorial and see your house and yard as their kingdom, so when someone “invades” their space, it can tank their mood, Miura says. “Things like claw marks on furniture and urine spray on walls are simply fresh boundary lines your cat sets when it feels like its territory was threatened by an intruder,” she explains. “The intruder could be anything from a mouse in the cupboard to a change in routine.” If removing the intrusion isn’t an option (you aren’t about to kick out your new baby, for instance), try to keep as many things constant for your depressed cat as possible. But there’s one habit you will want to change—here are 8 reasons you should never let your cat sleep on your bed.

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“Crying” for no apparent reason

Your furry friend might not speak English, but cats do use vocalizations to express their feelings. The sounds of a sad cat might not be the blue mews you’d expect. Any excessive meowing can be a sign that a cat is lonely or stressed, or needs attention for other health reasons, according to If your kitty seems down, leave more toys to keep it happy when you’re away, and give it extra cuddles when you can. “Talking” is just one of 17 cool things you never knew about your cat.

Charlotte Hilton Andersen
Charlotte Hilton Andersen, BS, MS, has been covering health, fitness, parenting, and culture for many major outlets, both in print and online, for 15 years. She's the author of two books, co-host of the Self Help Obsession podcast, and also does freelance editing and ghostwriting. She has appeared in television news segments for CBS, FOX, and NBC.

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