20 Things Your Babysitter Secretly Wants You to Know
From what they know about your marriage (hint: it's a lot!) to your parenting habits that drive them crazy, babysitters get honest about what it's really like to watch your children.
Do the introductions before the night-of
Before I babysit for the first time, have me come over and meet your child for a few minutes while you’re home. If you can’t do that, show your child a picture of me ahead of time. (I can probably text you one.) It really helps the kids feel more comfortable before you leave me with them. Follow these tips to hire a babysitter you can really trust.
Stick with quick goodbyes
If your child has separation anxiety and starts to cry when you’re leaving, hurry up and get out the door. Coming back for one more kiss or trying to soothe him before you go just prolongs the crying. Once you’re gone, he will stop crying—I promise. Most kids calm down in 10 minutes or less. (If it makes you feel better, ask me to text you once he stops.) For school days, make sure you know the 33 things your child’s teacher wants you to know.
Leave a list of all the important information
It’s hard to remember all the details you’re throwing at me in the 10 minutes before you leave. That’s why we love when you write down everything. In addition to emergency phone numbers, include the full bedtime routine, the rules of the house (Can the kids eat in the family room, play on the iPad?), where I can find things like extra toilet paper, and how to use that tricky TV remote. Don’t forget to include your WiFi password.
Most of the time, I couldn’t care less when you come home
Go ahead and get your party on, parents—that’s a bigger paycheck for me! But if you’re going to be later than you said, please give me the courtesy of a heads up. One time, the parents stayed out all night when I had another sitter job booked for the morning. Parents and babysitters alike should know these tips for playing with kids when you’re tired.
Snacks are one of the best perks
If you want a happy sitter, have something besides kale chips and organic apple sauce for me to snack on, and make sure to mention that it’s OK for me to help myself.
Money is my bottom line
Yes, I like your kids. I may even love them. But I’m still doing this for the money. If you pay me well or tip me at the end of the night, I’m going to feel much more loyal to your family. And I’ll be more likely to say yes next time.
Don’t complain to me
I’m not sure why you feel so comfortable confiding in me, but to tell you the truth, it makes me uncomfortable. Moms are always complaining about how their husbands never do anything around the house, how they spend too much money, and worse. Leaving your kids with Grandma? These are 26 things your mother-in-law is secretly thinking.
Your kids can’t keep a secret
They told me when Daddy lost his job, when Mommy went away to rehab, and how you both walk around naked. You should also know 18 things tutoring centers won’t tell you.
Have my payment ready before I get there
Sometimes parents haven’t had cash and need to raid their kids’ wallets or piggy banks to pay me. Don’t miss these 13 things your nanny wants you to know.
Chances are, I know about your marital problems
The kids tell me about your fights, and sometimes I hear you arguing outside before you come in. At one job, I learned the mom was having an affair because all of their devices were linked through iCloud, and her text messages to her lover popped up on the kid’s iPad.
Sometimes, I learn a bit too much about your personal life
One time I went to put in a DVD for the kids, and there was porn in there.
Don’t leave things on the counter you don’t want me to read
It doesn’t matter whether it’s a bill, a to-do list, or a bank statement. I saw one family’s tax return, and after that, I didn’t feel so bad asking for a higher rate.
If you ask me to do the laundry…
…you might want to think about what’s in your hamper first. I was shocked to find out the buttoned-up Dad I babysat for wears brightly colored briefs. Make sure you aren’t spreading the 52 of the worst parenting tips parents get.
I can’t stand reusable cloth diapers
They are totally disgusting. On the nights when I’m coming, please be considerate and leave me a few disposable ones.
I hate it when kids have super late bedtimes
I know you want to get the most bang for your buck, but your three-year-old should not be going to bed at 9 p.m. He’s just going to be cranky and ruin your day tomorrow. You’ll want to know these bedtime hacks that will help your toddler fall asleep sooner.
I know I’m not your kid’s parent, but…
…it drives me crazy that you’re so inconsistent when it comes to discipline. One mom told her son in front of me that he couldn’t have any ice cream that night because he hit his sister. But when I came back the next day, he said, “Guess what? I got ice cream last night!”
When a toddler is having a tantrum…
…my favorite trick is to stay calm, get down at their level, and start talking really softly. They’ll quiet down just so they can hear what I’m saying. Check out these 11 more ways to stop toddler tantrums in their tracks.
Let him cry it out in the crib. Don’t cook her a separate meal if she doesn’t like what you’re serving. And never, ever give in when they whine.
Sources: Kate Jenson, a babysitter in Chicago; Kathryn Poeschl, a babysitter in San Mateo, Calif.; Emily Levitan, a babysitter in Marin County, Calif.; a babysitter in Charlotte, N.C.; Lynn Perkins, founder of urbansitter.com; and Rachel Charlupski, founder of The Babysitting Company