Mental breakthroughs make all the difference
Courtesy Ramit Sethi The mind is a powerful tool—here are 15 ways reframing your thoughts can change your life. That’s the primary message of Ramit Sethi, a personal finance expert and author, and the brains behind Iwillteachyoutoberich.com and Growthlab.com. Sethi isn’t all that interested in wealth, even though much of his work is ostensibly about increasing one’s income. What matters to him, he told Fortune magazine, is behavioral change—helping people past mental blocks in order to live the lives they want. In a recent Instagram post, Sethi posted a comment from a fan thanking him for the inspiration to hire a personal trainer. In the caption, Sethi celebrated his fan’s “psychological breakthrough,” a phrase that best sums up one of the ways Sethi finds great purpose in his work. In an e-mail, he told RD.com, “I love my job because I get to have an impact on millions of people. I get to use the things I learned in college—technology, psychology—and apply them to help people start a business, find their dream job, and master their finances.” In his day-to-day life, he experiences a sense of purpose in relaying his message to his audience that doing work that you love—and continuing to do it no matter how much money you make—is what can lead to meaning. He says, “I used to think that meaning came from one special moment where the trumpets are playing and the light is shining on you. Now I think it’s about the person who shows up every day and gives it their best.”
Quality conversations are key
Courtesy Dr. Patrick Arbore Loneliness can creep into your life as you get older, which is why it’s nice to find 50 ways to not be lonely. Patrick Arbore, EdD, knows this, and it’s why he values meaningful conversation. Director and founder of the Elderly Suicide Prevention & Grief Related Services at the Institute on Aging, Arbore, 69, founded The Friendship Line, a 24-hour hotline whose volunteers reach out to the lonely, depressed, isolated, frail and potentially suicidal older adults. He says, “What brings me joy is when I can be the listener when someone is hungry for connection.” Arbore remembers one man in particular with whom he had a powerful bond with. The man was feeling suicidal in his 70s after his wife had passed. The man spoke with Dr. Arbore and volunteers on the Friendship Line at a stage when he wanted to end his life by jumping off a roof. After some time he told Arbore that “I am no longer thinking about suicide because people care about me.” Arbore found this exchange profound. “All we did was express caring and that is so significant because it’s not hard to do,” he says. “Our work is really quite simple. If you look at the common denominator in all the people who are suffering, isolated, and lonely, it’s connection and care. It’s saying ‘I see you. You exist.'” Do you derive meaning through a good chat? To strike up conversations, try these ideas.