20 Things Your Babysitter Secretly Wants You to Know
From what they know about your marriage (hint: it’s a lot!) to your parenting habits that drive them crazy, babysitters get honest about what it’s really like to watch your children.
Do the introductions before the night-of
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Before I babysit for the first time, have me come over and meet your child for a few minutes while you’re home. If you can’t do that, show your child a picture of me ahead of time. (I can probably text you one.) It really helps the kids feel more comfortable before you leave me with them. Follow these tips to hire a babysitter you can really trust.
Stick with quick goodbyes
If your child has separation anxiety and starts to cry when you’re leaving, hurry up and get out the door. Coming back for one more kiss or trying to soothe him before you go just prolongs the crying. Once you’re gone, he will stop crying—I promise. Most kids calm down in 10 minutes or less. (If it makes you feel better, ask me to text you once he stops.) For school days, make sure you know the 33 things your child’s teacher wants you to know.
Leave a list of all the important information
It’s hard to remember all the details you’re throwing at me in the 10 minutes before you leave. That’s why we love when you write down everything. In addition to emergency phone numbers, include the full bedtime routine, the rules of the house (Can the kids eat in the family room, play on the iPad?), where I can find things like extra toilet paper, and how to use that tricky TV remote. Don’t forget to include your WiFi password.
Most of the time, I couldn’t care less when you come home
Go ahead and get your party on, parents—that’s a bigger paycheck for me! But if you’re going to be later than you said, please give me the courtesy of a heads up. One time, the parents stayed out all night when I had another sitter job booked for the morning. Parents and babysitters alike should know these tips for playing with kids when you’re tired.
Snacks are one of the best perks
If you want a happy sitter, have something besides kale chips and organic apple sauce for me to snack on, and make sure to mention that it’s OK for me to help myself.
Money is my bottom line
Yes, I like your kids. I may even love them. But I’m still doing this for the money. If you pay me well or tip me at the end of the night, I’m going to feel much more loyal to your family. And I’ll be more likely to say yes next time.
Don’t complain to me
I’m not sure why you feel so comfortable confiding in me, but to tell you the truth, it makes me uncomfortable. Moms are always complaining about how their husbands never do anything around the house, how they spend too much money, and worse. Leaving your kids with Grandma? These are 26 things your mother-in-law is secretly thinking.
Your kids can’t keep a secret
They told me when Daddy lost his job, when Mommy went away to rehab, and how you both walk around naked. You should also know 18 things tutoring centers won’t tell you.
Have my payment ready before I get there
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