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Aim to go at least 30 days without contacting your ex if you want to be able to get over a breakup. Thirty days will become 40, then 50…and by then, chances are you’ll be feeling much better and have some additional clarity.
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Mentally create a new ending, by imagining it was you who rejected him or her instead, advises Alpert. “Move from being the rejected to the rejecter. This will change the dynamic and make you feel more empowered and less like a victim.” These science-backed tips can help boost your confidence as you get over a breakup.
Don’t date (or marry!) the next person you meetiStock/AzmanL
With revenge still on the mind, and in the heart, it’s very easy to want to replace the missing limb, but resist, advises April Masini, a New York-based relationship and etiquette expert. “After a painful breakup, being single for a while is the best way to ensure that your next relationship is not impulsive, haphazard, and doomed for a repeat breakup,” she says. “Take some time to process what happened and where things didn’t go as you had hoped—and what you want to do differently next time,” she says. Check out these 11 signs you can totally trust your partner.