Remember what matters
Dianne Gray was a 42-year-old single mom when her 14-year-old son Austin died. Gray, now the president of Elisabeth Kubler Ross Foundation, places an emphasis on knowing what matters in life. This means experiences over stuff and people over material possessions. She says, “Having a person you love die smacks you upside the side head and gets your priorities in order. I used to spend years agonizing over the perfect armoire, the perfect rug, and the perfect paint color. It doesn’t matter. It’s just stuff.” This philosophy also shows up in Gray’s work where she works with the dying to help them figure out how they want to live until they go. Her terminally ill patients don’t tell her about how much their car meant to them. Tell they her they will miss spending time with their dog, how they wish they could play with their grandchildren more, or how they want to be there when their daughter gets married. Gray says, “You realize things like the kind of car you drive or house you live in doesn’t matter.” Reminder: Don’t forget these easy ways to live in the moment.
There’s one question we’ll all have at the end of our life
When death nears some ask one big question: Will I be remembered? In other words, we will, on some level, ask, “Does my life matter?” Gray says, “People want to know they will be remembered.” The work of being remembered might not be about starting the next big tech company or reaching celebrity status but building memorable moments, making a difference and being your authentic self. If this is the question we’ll ask when we die, the question that comes up in our life is, how do I want to be remembered? Maya Angelou’s classic quote is “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Here are ideas on how to make someone’s day.