You’ve been apart and your relationship has thrived
Whether you weathered a romance across an ocean for a year or spent a few vacations apart, a successful time away from one another is revealing. “A healthy relationship is one where you love to be together, but can survive if you’re apart,” says Spira. You can live you own lives, missing one another across the miles, and still grow as a couple. See if you can stay connected through Skype, FaceTime, emails, calls, or texts. “If he seems not to want to maintain contact, then he may turn to someone who’s near, and this could be a style later on that turns into an extramarital affair,” says Dr. Walkup. But also remember, it’s ok if he isn’t in touch constantly and is giving you some space. “If he isn’t texting you 24/7, but wants you to have a good time, you’ll know he cares more about your happiness than in controlling you and your calendar,” says Spira. Here are tips for staying connected to your partner when you have to be apart.
You make future plans
Planning a vacation together next summer? Being his plus-one at the office Labor Day barbecue? That’s a good sign he’s in it for the long haul. “If he invites you to his nephew’s birthday party in three months or a wedding in six months, that means he plans to be with you by the time those events come up,” says Mike Goldstein, founder and lead dating coach of EZ Dating Coach. Next, check out these surprising secrets of happily married couples.