19 Things Your Marriage Counselor Knows about Your Relationship—but Isn’t Telling You
Counselors across the country weigh in on what they are REALLY thinking during couples therapy.
It's best when you both care
I love couples who fight in the waiting room. At least they still care about each other. If one or both of you seem indifferent, my job is a lot harder. Learn the seven things that happy couples do when they fight.
I know when you're cheating
When you say your feelings "just aren't there anymore," I know you're probably cheating. Here are 12 subtle signs your spouse may be cheating.
We try to trick you
Sometimes I'll tell a couple "no sex until the next session. Don't touch each other, period." What I'm really hoping is that they'll fail and feel a sense of unity from their mutual rebellion.
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Don't talk to outsiders
It may make you feel better to talk about your marriage issues with a good friend, but it will just make things worse. Never talk to outsiders about things in your marriage that you haven't already talked about with your spouse.
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I'll try not to be blunt
I'm not going to tell a couple that I have no idea why they're together. But take the hint if I say something like, "You both have to make a decision about whether this is going to work long term." Watch out for the eight secret signs your marriage is headed for divorce.
Sometimes I want to yell at you
What do I wish I could say? "Grow up!" "Stop whining!" "Get a life!" When I feel this way, I know I need a vacation.
I know there isn't a good one
Don't try to convince me you're the good one. In most marriages, there isn't a good one. Read on for surprising marriage advice from divorced people.
Go to bed angry
Yes, you should go to bed angry. If you try to resolve everything before you hit the sack, you'll both be sleep-deprived and cranky the next day. Instead, get a good night's sleep and talk once you're rested.
We know the signs of failure
Three signs that a couple is not going to succeed: name-calling, finger-pointing, and when one or both partners fail to accept even the tiniest bit of responsibility for the situation. Here are 15 things a divorce lawyer wants married people to know.
Sometimes I recommend living separately
Sometimes two people love each other but have such different styles of living that I recommend they live together in a duplex. It sounds strange, but it works for some people.