They fall asleep at the same time
Wives who are happier with their marriage overlapped with their husband’s sleep schedule about 90 percent of time, according to a recent University of Pittsburgh study that tracked sleep patterns and relationship satisfaction scores for 46 married heterosexual couples for 10 days. Women who weren’t as satisfied with their marriages overlapped with as little as half of their husbands’ times asleep, the study found. If your schedule doesn’t let you go to bed at the same time as your partner, try to find other times during the day to connect, study author Heather Gunn, a psychologist and sleep researcher, told the New York Times. “My hunch is that the person feels a need for more closeness or security. We don’t innately need to go to bed at the same time; the desire usually comes from someplace else.”
And they’re not afraid to go to bed mad
Even the happiest couples will fall asleep while they’re still fuming over a fight, says Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and author of The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference. Trying to force a resolution can lead to saying words you could regret in the morning. The trick, Feldhahn says, is to revisit the issue the next day with a clear head, instead of ignoring or forgetting about it. Of the 1,000 couples she talked to, the partners who rated their marriages the happiest were eight times less likely than those with unhappier relationships to pretend the fight had never happened when they woke up.