Don't ask too many questions at onceCourtesy Nicole FornabaioThere are some things you should never, ever say over text. Saying too much is one of them. Asking a question or two makes you seem interested, which is good, but asking too many questions makes your text conversation seem like an interview. "If you're casually dating or just starting out, don't ask more than two questions in a row if they aren't asking any back," shares Shallon Lester, a dating and relationship expert and author. "Conversations are a two-way street."
Ask yourself, "What would Twitter do?"Courtesy Nicole FornabaioIf you're wondering how Twitter is involved in texting your significant other, it comes down to how many characters you're using. "Look back at your texts," suggests Shallon. "Did his simple 'How's your day?' yield a 309-word diatribe about your spilled latte, flubbed presentation, and annoying call with your sister? Save long conversations for real life and keep texts short to pique his interest."
Take it easy with the emojisCourtesy Nicole FornabaioIf you're over the age of 15, an emoji every other text should be more than enough. "Too many can come across as cheesy and immature, and many times can be misinterpreted," says Lester. Here's why you might not want to add emojis to your emails either.
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Don't go overboard with abbreviationsCourtesy Nicole Fornabaio"LMFAO, WYD, and K have their time and place," explains Sharon. "It's called high school. Adults use adult words, so lavish your S/O with the extra seconds it takes to spell something out. And avoid peppering cheeky texts with "lol" because it's juvenile and dilutes your message." If you must use trendy abbreviations though, study our list of text abbreviations everyone should know.
Be upfront if the tone seems offCourtesy Nicole FornabaioShallon says that while getting into a text argument may seem smart or possibly even inevitable, it's one of the worst moves you can make, and that's because it's really hard to interpret another person's tone when they're typing. "Most communication is nonverbal," she says. "Try saying something like 'I feel like we're misinterpreting each other's tone right now.'" Then agree to pick up the conversation later in person. Asking these two little questions can stop a fight in its tracks.
Never text when you're angryCourtesy Nicole FornabaioMad texting is always trouble, so take some tips from what happy couples do when they fight to keep it fair. "Wait until you cool off a bit, and your head is clearer," says professional matchmaker Bonnie Winston. "Impulsively sprouting mean or nasty remarks by text cannot be undone easily. As hard as it might be, give yourself some time to calm down and reason, and think it through. This goes for partners, as well as anyone you really care about."
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