His questions don’t feel like an interrogation
Often—though not always—people get suspicious of a partner because they can imagine themselves creating the problems they accuse their partner of, Schwartz says. So if there’s trust in a relationship, he won’t give off those skeptical vibes. “You show support by displaying that you do, in fact, believe and trust that person by taking their word at face value, not grilling them,” Schwartz says. “Wholehearted acceptance of what that person is saying or asking follow-up questions that show interest in what happened as opposed to what did or did not happen show trust.”
She hands you her phone while she’s driving
You shouldn’t go snooping through your partner’s messages when she’s not there, but if she hands you her phone without being prompted, you’ll know she has nothing to hide. “It’s not like you should go and check up on somebody, because that makes you the police, and that’s not healthy,” Feldhahn says. “But it’s to just know ‘I’m an open book in technology and if you happen to be there, there’s nothing I wouldn’t want you to see.’” On the other hand, being guarded about your phone could be one of these 12 subtle signs your partner is cheating.
Conversation feels natural
A good liar knows that fibbers supposedly can’t look you in the eye, so a deceitful partner might overcompensate by looking you straight in the eye. “When someone’s telling the truth, they don’t have to be so dramatic,” Schwartz says. “If being trustworthy, people are casual and direct.” Next, check out these other 11 surprising signs your partner is a keeper.