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Part of being a manager includes being available to answer questions, help you work through tasks you might be struggling with, and generally be your go-to adviser, so it’s a problem when managers make themselves inaccessible. “You might not be able to trust your boss if they don’t seem approachable,” explains psychologist Nikki Martinez, PsyD. “It makes you feel like you can’t go to them with questions and concerns.” She cautions, however, that it’s possible to read the situation wrong, so definitely attempt to go to them for guidance and problem-solving before making any assumptions. “The reaction may surprise you, and can resolve the issue immediately if they can be trusted,” Martinez says. You should also trust the brands of the products you use every day.
Even if you vent to your coworkers about other people you work with on other teams—or even about your boss!— it’s not appropriate for your employer to talk to you about your peers. “This is a strong indication that they talk about all of you to all of you,” Martinez explains. A simple way to correct this is to say something simple like, ‘I’m not really comfortable talking about John while he’s not here,’ or countering with a good quality of the person they’re talking about. “This sends a subtle message both that you are not the person to talk to like this, and if you are lucky, you’ll make them stop and think about this behavior,” Martinez adds. This magic phrase can stop gossip in its tracks.