“If your child won’t share, make them”
“Children are not developmentally capable of putting their own feelings aside for another’s feelings until at least age five. And the bigger the feelings, the longer that is going to take to come on line. This means you have to be sensitive to whether or not sharing is a realistic expectation. I always tell parents that if your child has a very special toy, put it away before a playdate. For other toys, have an adult nearby to help the kids navigate sharing as needed.” —Vanessa Lapointe, PhD, psychologist, parenting expert, mother, and author of Discipline Without Damage: How To Get Your Kids To Behave Without Messing Them Up. Here are 17 manners all parents should teach their children.
“Kids need playdates or they’ll grow up antisocial”
“We can be really focused on playdates as a necessary part of healthy child development, but the truth is that far more than children need time with other children, they need time with their special adults: moms, dads, grandmas, grandpas, uncles, aunts, and family friends. Natural multi-age clustering of children as would happen at family get-togethers and neighborhood BBQs is a wonderful way for children to navigate social interaction naturally.” —Vanessa Lapointe
“If you don’t do preschool your kid will never be ready for kindergarten”
“I absolutely do not feel that Pre-K or preschool is necessary. The more time children have with their primary caregivers in a stimulating environment the better. Of course, there are also several other things that often weigh into this consideration for families, including economics, two-working parent households, etc. But generally speaking, if kids are at home with a primary caregiver in an enriched environment, then that is a lovely place for them to stay, and they will learn plenty.” —Vanessa Lapointe