What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and reason about your own and others’ emotions. The term was popularized by Daniel Goleman in his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, in which he lays out five components to emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. With collaborative workplaces and globalization on the rise, “EQ” is more important than ever. “That expert who might have had a high IQ or was very brilliant at one thing is now finding themselves on teams,” says Jen Shirkani, author of Ego vs. EQ: How Top Leaders Beat 8 Ego Traps With Emotional Intelligence. “Their jobs require more well-rounded employees than in the past.” Check out these mental shifts that boost your emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence factor: Self-awareness
Self-awareness has two parts: emotional and social, says Shirkani. Emotional self-awareness is recognizing your own strengths, weaknesses, personality traits, communication styles, and more. “It’s relatively easy to get emotional self-awareness because you can take personality tests or do a lot of self-reflection,” says Shirkani. “Once you know it, it’s something you carry with you.” Social self-awareness, on the other hand, involves knowing how other people see you, which can be trickier to recognize because perceptions can change and be tough to read.