From coast to coast, I've visited all 50 states, and it taught me lessons no guidebook could
As anyone who’s ever known me will attest, I’ve always been energized by seeing new places and trying new things. So, a few years back, when I was getting close to having visited all 50 states, I made a promise to myself that I would see them all before I turned 50. It was the only item on my bucket list that really mattered to me. And it’s the one I’m most proud of checking off, now that it’s done.
I accomplished my goal to visit all 50 states just a month shy of turning 49, in the visitor’s center at Theodore Roosevelt National Park on the western edge of North Dakota. And I’m apparently one of the more adventurous people in our country because, according to a 2025 YouGov survey, the average American has visited just 16 states. While I don’t claim to be an expert, you can keep reading to find out what visiting all 50 states taught me about America (and myself!).
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Every state is worth visiting
I knew for a while that North Dakota would be my final state. Nothing against the place, but it’s one of those spots that you’re just not all that likely to pass through on your way to somewhere else, like Oklahoma on a Route 66 road trip. But I had absolutely no idea what would happen when I got to the Peace Garden State after I’d waited so long to go.
A special moment and a surprise
As my friend Sherry and I walked into that visitor’s center, I made a joyful comment about how I’d now visited all 50 states. One of the park rangers behind the counter overheard me. As it turns out, North Dakota is so often the final state that people visit, they have a “Save the Best for Last” club, where they give you a certificate, bumper stickers and a T-shirt to mark the occasion. They took my picture near the wood chipper from Fargo, which is on permanent display at the scenic nature getaway, and invited me to join a private Facebook group for other members. That experience made a special personal moment very, very much more so.
I love that North Dakotans own their lack of popularity in such a celebratory way. They’re proud of where they live, and they should be.
My takeaway nugget: For lots of Americans, there’s an entire swath of the U.S. deemed “flyover states” that aren’t worth seeing. That’s completely untrue. Some of the best moments in my life happened in places I never would have expected. And while North Dakota is absolutely worth visiting as soon as possible—every state is—I highly recommend saving it for last.
Getting out of your comfort zone is its own reward
When I was in my late 20s, I was invited on a work trip to stay at a remote bear camp on the Kenai Peninsula in Alaska. Neither my Midwestern suburban childhood nor my early adulthood in New York City prepared me for anything like this, but of course, I was game.
We landed on a beach in a rickety four-seater plane and were greeted by a rugged and highly capable man holding a rifle to protect us from the multiple bears that were in plain sight. Oh, boy. I remember thinking that those canvas tents probably looked like potato chip bags to them.
Trying my hand at fishing
Besides avoiding the bears, one of the activities for this trip was salmon fishing on the Kenai River. I sat in a tiny rowboat with three elderly men for hours, shivering while wearing every item of clothing I’d packed. It was miserable, but I just kept thinking about how awesome it would be if I caught a salmon—my friends would never believe it!—and I kept my mouth shut.
None of us caught a single fish, so one of the old-timers suggested we head back to shore. When one of them helped me out of the boat, he said, “You never once complained about any of it.” I was proud he noticed, but why would I complain? When would I ever get a chance to do anything like that again? Seizing a unique opportunity is what traveling is all about.
My takeaway nugget: If you’re rural, embrace the noise and chaos of a city every once in a while. If you’re an urbanite, breathe in the smell of the forest or watch the waving prairie grasses. You just may connect with a part of yourself you didn’t know was in there.
Leaning in is particularly important with food
I’m an omnivore, so take this bit of advice with a grain of salt: Stop being a picky eater when you travel. Keto and carbs aren’t all that important when you’re collecting experiences. I realized this once I’d visited all 50 states—delicious regional state foods are worth every single calorie. Every single time.
My takeaway nugget: Smash crabs on a restaurant table in Maryland. Drink beer, and eat too much sausage and cheese in Wisconsin. Crack into a fresh-caught lobster in Maine. Order the Christmas enchiladas in New Mexico. None of those things will ever taste better than they will at that exact moment. America’s favorite food can be found anywhere you go.
Embrace local culture
The first time I went to the Gulf Coast of Alabama, Sex in the City was wildly popular. I was eating at a down-home beachfront bar and grill, and when the sweet waitress came by to take our drink order, I ordered a cosmopolitan. She had no idea what that was (and neither did the bartender), and I have little doubt all these years later that I made them feel small as I tried to show them how sophisticated I thought I was. In hindsight, I should have ordered a Budweiser.
My takeaway nugget: You’re missing out on the fun—and very likely the hidden gems too—if you don’t follow the lead of the people who live there. They know their area better than you ever will. One evening spent doing something you normally wouldn’t won’t kill you, and you’ll enjoy it way more than you think you will. So basically, don’t be a New Yorker when you’re in Alabama.
We’re all more alike than we are different
Social media and cable news may make us think we’re living in a polarized country, but talking to actual people tells me otherwise. I’ve never had anyone in any state tear into me like an anonymous Twitter troll. Politics don’t tend to come up if you don’t bring them up. Everyday folks from coast to coast are much kinder and more open-minded than we give them credit for.
My takeaway nugget: Our American identity is much stronger than our political differences. Everywhere you go, people love Fourth of July parades, county fairs and their high-school sports teams. They love sunshine, flowers and their grandkids too. And the very best way to find that out is to hit the road and see at least some of the states for yourself. I promise you’ll never regret telling everyone you visited all 50 states.
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Source:
- YouGov: “Which states have Americans visited?”
