We always knew when our next trip was bookedCourtesy theworldpursuit.com
You can take advantage of apps that can help you keep in touch with your distant loved one. Or you can be proactive about seeing them: When Natasha Alden, a travel blogger, finished college, her boyfriend Cameron Seagle still had a year left to go. Not one to step in the way of adventure, Cameron encouraged Natasha’s travels and they entered a long distance relationship that could cover the miles. Their greatest piece of advice on staying connected was to book the next trip to visit each other before the current one ended. “In that one year, Cameron met me twice abroad it gave us something to look forward to and to plan. For my final return, we got to plan our first date back in the United States. As with a lot of things, it was about mental framing. You go from thinking ‘when will we finally be together’ to ‘I can’t wait to do this together,'” she shared.
“We stayed busy, but always made time for one another”Courtesy Holen Photography
Matthew Beine and Ashley Vickney met in high school but choose to attend college in different states. Even at that distance, they managed to fall in love and seal the deal on their relationship during winter break in their freshman year. They spent the rest of college 400 miles apart, driving more than eight hours to see one another, and even made it through Ashley’s four-month study abroad detour in Spain. To keep connected, they set a few ground rules to maintain the spark and their sanity. First and foremost, they would never go 24 hours without talking on the phone. “It was sometimes only for three minutes, but being able to hear each other’s voices and catch up is way more meaningful than texting,” says Ashley. “Also a lot of emotion can get lost over text, so that ensured we were still communicating about feelings and expectations.”
Another rule they followed? Keep busy, since idle minds don’t lend themselves to the best choices. “It’s hard to really dwell on not seeing each other every day or even every month because you’re going out with friends, volunteering, and working,” she said.
“We surprise one another”Courtesy Jenny Adams
Lovers can learn some techniques from long-distance friends, such as these tips. And using the element of surprise is always a good idea: Jenny Adams and Chris Page met on OkCupid while they were in New York for a short stint. But they didn’t overlap for very long, and they soon began missing one another. They both travel for work, and Jenny spends a lot of time in Southeast Asia; through a series of serendipitous events, they ended up having their first date in Hong Kong after four months of chatting online. That first date ended up lasting four days, and then Jenny spent a month with Chris. They planned another trip. Then another. And six months later, they made it official. More than three and a half years later, they’ll still in a long distance relationship—seeing each other about six months out of every year. But to keep the chemistry alive, they’ve made an effort to incorporate surprises.
“I’ve been at a bar before where the bartender has sent over a beer from Chris, who called it in from Manila. We physically fly to surprise each other all the time, also. He called me one Friday and asked what I was doing. I replied, ‘I’m sitting on the couch.’ He told me to pack a bag for cold weather, get in a cab and come to JFK immediately. He was there at the rental car counter. He’d flown in 25 hours on a plane and had rented a Mustang, which we drove to Montreal to see the NY Rangers play for the weekend,” she shared. “I surprised him most recently by inviting his sister from New Zealand to Bangkok. And last year on my birthday, I sent him a series of inside-joke/treasure-map-styled messages. The culmination was him realizing I was not in NYC, as he’d thought, but sitting in a cafe below his office. He came running down to find me. I had a weekend in the islands planned for us.”