Be careful what you look for because you might just find it
“My great grandmother always told me to be careful what you go fishing for because you may come out with snakes. As a therapist, I share this with my clients when they are suspicious of what their partner are doing. They may think they want to know everything but are the results worth the fallout from that information? Often we tend to think we are ready to know all the dirty details only to realize we were better off before.” —Shannon Battle, licensed professional counselor. And there actually are some secrets it’s fine to keep from your spouse.
It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it
“As a child, my Southern grandmother taught me that successful relationships were more a result of character than content. As such, her favorite saying was ‘You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.’ Now that I work as a marriage counselor I see how true that is. It’s important to always speak kindly even in tense situations as kind words help couples establish and maintain habits of fair and equitable collaboration that creates a stronger bond.” —Bill Benson, licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical counselor at The Mental Gym. But there are also some specific things you can tell your spouse to help make your marriage happier.