First, let's face it: It's never a win-win
Compromise is crucial to any good relationship, and generally speaking, the ideal result is both parties feel they've won, according to the American Management Association. But when you're unwinding a relationship—as in a divorce—it's pretty rare for anyone to walk away feeling victorious. "Apart from the emotional toll a divorce exacts upon the once-hopeful couple, there's simply no way to split things up in a way that doesn't engender at least some level of regret and resentment," explains matrimonial attorney Rebecca Zung.
Sometimes it seems fine, until it's not
Here are the signs your marriage is headed for divorce.
"No trash talking" clause
Before uber-celebrity Jennifer Lopez could marry singer Marc Anthony, Anthony had to divorce his then-wife Dayonara Torres, and it appears that JLo took a serious interest in how that divorce settlement went down, according to Legal Zoom, which reports that the settlement included a clause forbidding Torres from speaking ill of JLo (at the risk of lawsuit and the payment of damages).
Here are some crazy (but true!) reasons people have filed for divorce.
She lost her head
The most celebrated divorce in history, according to Smithsonian.org, is that of King Henry VIII versus...Pope Clement VII? It's the Pope who Henry had to fight when he wanted to end his first marriage so that he could marry the younger, prettier Anne Boleyn. And it's a fight that ended poorly for everyone. To marry Anne, Henry quit the church. Quitting the church quickly caused England's way of life to unravel, for which the English blamed Anne. Within three years, Henry had grown disenchanted with Anne and had her beheaded.
While you may not want to emulate Henry VIII, here are some royal family traditions you might be interested in cultivating.
Snopes had to step in regarding apocryphal stories that singer Marvin Gaye agreed to pay his ex, Anna, all royalties from his next album (Here, My Dear), including: Anna got screwed because Marvin didn't give the album his best effort. Marvin got screwed because the album was a hit.
Neither is true. Marvin owed Anna a specific amount regardless of the album's success. Although Marvin initially considered torpedoing the album, he ended up creating a record critics loved.
Quick trivia test: Which Marvin Gaye song is on the soundtrack of one of the movies with the best soundtracks ever?
It could happen to you
Here are the things that lottery winners won't be telling you.
Some people are just asking for trouble
Attorney Zung tells Reader's Digest that the worst settlements she's seen are the ones where people have been married a short time, there's a great disparity between their incomes or net worth, and there's no prenuptial agreement. "For example, a wealthy guy married a cashier. They were married only a year when he placed her name on the deed to their multi-million dollar home. When she left him, the court ruled that the home had been 'gifted' to her."
These divorcees reveal the red flags that their marriage was over.
Sometimes the law just fails to provide a reasonable result
When smart people make stupid choices
Nobel laureates may be among the smartest people on the planet. But even they make questionable settlement choices. In 1988, Robert Lucas agreed to give his ex-wife half of the funds from any Nobel prize he might win in the future...with an expiration date of 1995. Turned out, that was the year Lucas picked up the prize. At least he's in good company: All of Albert Einstein's prize money from his 1921 Nobel win went to his ex-wife, Mileva Maric.