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8 Etiquette Mistakes Everyone Makes at a Steakhouse

Steakhouse etiquette is designed to create a formal-but-friendly experience, but all those stuffy rules can make you feel uncomfortable. Warm up the experience by learning some of the most common mistakes.

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Steakhouse standards

The $65 steak entree isn’t the only intimidating thing about upscale steakhouse restaurants; they can be stuffy and full of rules. Since most of us only go out to eat at these special-occasion restaurants once or twice a year, it’s hard to keep track of what you should and shouldn’t be doing. We’re here to help. Plus, watch out for these rude behaviors you shouldn’t do at any restaurant.

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Dousing your steak with steak sauce

If the chef wants the steak to be slathered in sauce, it will come to the table that way. Otherwise, it is definitely a faux pas to dump A1 steak sauce on your meat—especially if you haven’t tasted it yet! If you’re a sauce-on-your-steak kind of person, ask the server about house-made sauces that will pair well with your particular steak. They probably have things like garlic butter, peppercorn sauces, or chimichurri. Cooking your own steak at home instead? Here are some secrets to cooking the best steak ever, according to professionals.

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Cutting the steak all at once

Believe it or not, there is a correct way to cut steak, and it involves cutting one bite at a time. You should hold the knife in your right hand with your index finger extended down the back of the utensil. Then, holding the fork in your left hand, pin down the meat and cut a single bite in a zigzag motion. Finally, place the knife on the plate and transfer the fork to your right hand to take the bite. Learn why you don’t have to have a steak with grill marks.

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Eating every last bite

You might think a clean plate means you loved every bite, but according to etiquette experts, it actually sends the wrong message. Leaving one bite of food on the plate shows that you were satisfied but not so hungry you licked the plate clean, which may indicate that you weren’t served enough food. Curious if you’re making more dining mistakes? Check out these little-known blunders.

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Putting your napkin on the table

When you excuse yourself, don’t plop the napkin directly on the table. Instead, loosely fold it and place it on your chair. The napkin shouldn’t ever be thrown onto your plate, even when you’re finished eating. It should be placed (again, loosely folded) to the left of the plate. Find out what celebrity chefs look for in a restaurant.

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Chewing on the steak bone

This piece of advice may seem obvious, but you should never gnaw on an animal bone at the table if you’re at a fancy restaurant. It might seem tempting if the meat is delicious, but it’s best to keep your fingers away from the food at all times. That’s what the fork and knife are for! Find out more things polite people don’t do at restaurants.

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Spitting out chewy pieces into a napkin

No matter how fancy the steakhouse, you may find a gristly piece of steak in the mix. If you spit it into your napkin, you may forget it’s there, stand up, and have the bite go rolling around the dining room! It’s best to discreetly take the piece out with your fingers and place it on the upper left corner of the plate. If you don’t like looking at it, you can ask the server for an extra napkin to remove the piece from sight. Watch out for these mistakes you make when cooking steak yourself.

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Not following the dress code

Dining is an informal business in most parts of the country, but many high-end restaurants still have a dress code (especially in cities like New York, Chicago, and New Orleans). No one wants to show up for their reservation and be told they can’t enter the dining room, so be sure to ask before you arrive. Plus, find out if men keeping their hats on is still considered rude.

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Ordering steak well done

You should order steak how you like it, so if that’s a well-done steak, then go for it. On the other hand, most steaks taste juicier and more flavorful if they’re cooked to medium-rare or medium (although here’s what you should know about ordering medium-rare steak). Strike up a conversation with the server and let them know why you prefer well-done meat. They may be able to suggest a menu option that will still taste great when cooked to well-done temperatures. Next, find out what you absolutely shouldn’t do at any restaurant during COVID-19.

Originally Published on Taste of Home

Lindsay D. Mattison
Lindsay D. Mattison is a professional chef and a food writer. After graduating from Cascade Culinary school, Lindsay became the Executive Chef at Jackson's Corner in Bend, OR, from 2013 to 2016. Her genuine passion for food and sustainable food practices led her to find the farmer in herself. She lives in Durango, CO, where she enjoys the trials and errors of small plot farming. Lindsay is currently working on a cookbook that teaches home cooks how to craft beautiful meals without a recipe, tentatively titled "The Art of Bricolage: Cultivating Confidence and Creativity in the Kitchen."