More women are choosing to be single
Aliza Burton, Michele Sonier, Robin Hait
If you’re not married, you’re definitely not alone. The latest United States Census revealed that for the first time in the history of ever, unmarried women outnumber their married counterparts. If you haven’t noticed it before, perhaps now you will, just as I did at a recent dinner party in New York City. Although I was invited by a female friend, I assumed that most everyone else would be there as couples. As it turned out, the vast majority of attendees were women who’d either come solo or with a friend, as I had. I quickly sussed out that most of these women were unmarried, and all of them by choice. More women than ever are making this choice, according to research, and not as a rejection of marriage, but as a result of embracing the many choices available to women today—only one of which is marriage. That was definitely the vibe I picked up at the dinner party, and as I began talking to more women about why they like being single and what they see as the benefits of being single, it became even clearer. It is not a desire to be alone but, rather, to be fully engaged in their lives. They’re open to the possibility of a committed partnership, and some are already in relationships. None, however, is waiting for another person to make her whole. Check out more expert-backed tips to get the love you want.
I gained self-awareness
As a married mother of six, Lynn Maggio felt pampered and cared for. Life was good, but she didn’t feel that she fully inhabited her life. For Maggio, the choice to be single was about finding herself as an adult, a mother, and a woman. “On my own, I am far more aware of who I truly am as a being,” says the on-camera host who was crowned Mrs. Alabama America in 2012; is the mother of six kids, including eight-year-old twins and a five-year-old; and has been divorced and happily single for four years. As a result of her divorce, Maggio has started down the road of becoming the best self she can be, which includes having recently purchased her own home in her own name. “Of course, we all want that perfect soul mate,” she adds, “but until one can truly be independent and happy on their own I don’t feel they can be a good partner. I’m finding myself and enjoying it. I’m continuing to learn who I am and what it is that will make me the best person. Only then will I make the best partner to the most amazing person.” Every single parent wants you to know these things, too.