Choose goals with emotional purpose
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As we grow older and develop long-lasting, enduring friendships and relationships, we begin to realize the importance of quality over quantity. For dual licensed mental health professional and lifestyle expert Kryss Shane, BS, MS, MSW, LSW, LMSW, this lesson was a vital one to make, inspiring her 2017 resolution to become more intentional about the people in her life. In an effort to weed out those who didn’t invest in her and put her focus on those who valued her, she made small, yet impactful strides throughout every month. “I disconnected those on social media who were harmful to me and I took more time to call, e-mail, and visit those who loved and appreciated me,” she shared. As she looks ahead to the starting line of a new lap around the sun, her load is lighter and her friendships stronger. To achieve the same results, Shane recommends choosing a resolution that holds an emotional purpose and checking-in with yourself frequently. “Add in benchmarks and rewards along the way so that there are moments to recognize the progress made on the resolution and to celebrate your hard work,” she adds.
Be your own greatest fan
While some professionals are fortunate to have a clear picture of their anticipated career path from day one of college, others take a less direct route. When 38-year-old wife, mother, stay-at-home mom, and author Krystle Lynch considered her hopes for 2017, she decided it was now or never to begin her master’s degree. After delaying for years, she’s now half-way through her program and intends to graduate in summer 2018. Her newfound confidence helped create the fodder for another resolution: compete in a beauty pageant for the first time since she was a teenager. Twelve months later she took home two crowns and a supercharged dedication to share her platform raising awareness of miscarriage and preterm birth.
Her advice to those who want to start procrastinating? Get started and be your own greatest fan. “Sometimes we don’t accomplish our resolutions because somewhere on the path we talk ourselves out of it. We may feel that we don’t have the resources, willpower, or determination to accomplish. We must hold ourselves accountable, with no excuses. We can become our own worst enemy. We must know that we are worth it, that we deserve to win in life,” she says.