Love and a log cabin
"Sitting by the fireplace, reading, watching old movies, standing on the porch with hot tea as the snow came down, watching the animals, being invited by the locals to experience their Christmas festivities," she recalls. "It wasn't an adventurous vacation by most people's standards, but for us, it was a beautiful time to reconnect, get far away from the hospital, calm our bodies, sleep, and, most importantly, spend quiet time together." It was exactly what Marisa needed, and her husband totally "got it." So did the cabin's owner, who found herself inspired—by Mickey's love for Marisa and Marisa's strength—to let them stay a few extra days.
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A quilt of many colors
Well, Terry's mom must have known what Terry was thinking. Leaning over, she whispered to Terry, "You pick any fabrics you like. It's your Christmas gift from me." Terry's eyes filled with tears as the cart began to overflow with bolts of fabric, but not because Terry was planning on making herself a pretty dress or a pair of curtains for the kitchen. Rather, Terry's mom's generosity had inspired some holiday gift ideas in Terry, and it didn't take long for Terry to figure out what she was going to do with all that fabric.
"I was going to make my first quilt," she explains. "Every night when my little boys went to bed, I would work on this queen-size quilt. With every stitch, I thought about all that my mom had done for me and my siblings over the course of our childhood, during which we were always battling homelessness, but Mom somehow managed to fill our lives with love and make everything okay."
On Christmas day, five days after her baby girl was born, Terry handed her mom a gift box. Inside was the quilt she had sewn, shedding cathartic tears of love with each stitch, from the fabric her mother had given her as a gift.
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Julia grew up in Kansas but at 35, was living in Perth, Australia, for work when she became a mother for the first time. When the Christmas season arrived, although Julie was thrilled with her new daughter and was growing accustomed to life in Perth, she couldn't help but feel a bit lonely for her own mother, as well as her childhood home and the comforts of the past. That's why it was so meaningful when she opened a package shipped straight from Kansas and saw that inside was her own baby outfit from 35 years ago: dress, bonnet, and cute little socks made out of pink Swiss Dot (a sheer cotton fabric that is embellished with small dots). Along with the outfit was an old, faded picture of Julie wearing the outfit. On the back of the photo was the inscription from her mom: "Baby Julia, Russel Springs, Kansas, 1958 — Cute!!!"
The nostalgia the gift awakened was powerful and healing and brought Julia so much joy that 25 years later, at age 60, she still thinks of it as "the best Christmas gift ever."
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The gift of hearing
"I remember the moment they were fit to my ears," Sarah recalls. "And I remember every first that came after—the first time I heard my mother's voice. The first time I heard my father cry as he realized I could hear my mother. The first time I listened to Winter Wonderland on the radio and heard every word, rather than incoherent mumblings. The first time I heard my best friend's voice, calling from England to wish me a Merry Christmas."
"My hearing aids are probably the dearest Christmas gift my parents have ever given to me. It might sound strange to say that, but until you lose your hearing, you never fully understand how inexplicably precious it is. How you miss the moment your partner whispers 'I love you.' How you miss the calming roll of the ocean waves on vacation. How you miss the joke that everyone laughs at. How you miss—life. But now I don't miss life anymore."
Her hearing aids were more than just about hearing, however. They gave Sarah self-confidence, the chance to embrace new friends and new places, the courage to take on new challenges and adventures. "They gave me the chance to hear the words I'd longed to hear, and to laugh at the jokes I'd desperately wished to be part of. Every day, they return to me a moment, a sound, a voice. They return to me the kaleidoscope of a life I'd once thought forever dark."
Sarah is a communications specialist at Starkey Hearing Technologies, who is in the business of connecting people and changing lives. Through her work and experiences, Sarah has learned that being able to hear the world and the people around us is as essential to the human experience as breathing. Every time someone purchases a hearing aid, Starkey makes a donation to Starkey Hearing Foundation, which travels the globe to give people in need the priceless gift of hearing.
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A first Christmas with a second chance
What Ken gave Carlyn that day made it clear that it was. "He gave me a black and white, nearly impossible-to-find, poster of Jane Goodall with a chimpanzee reaching up towards her, and the caption, Think Different," she recalls. And it meant everything. "Jane Goodall is my hero. Her selfless devotion to the welfare of animals inspired me to become an animal advocate. Today, I am a best-selling and award-winning author, and this picture hangs beside my bed. It's what I see first when I wake up in the morning before I turn and see that I'm lying next to the most wonderful man in the world."
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The "last" gift her mother ever gave her
"Although I wore the bracelet many times, I couldn't bring myself to get it engraved because I knew I couldn't show it to Mom," Jennifer explains. "But one day, in early 2016, I steeled myself, walked into Tiffany's and got the bracelet engraved with "Jenny" on the front, and on the back, "Love, Mom." That's when Jennifer realized that the bracelet wasn't the last gift her mom would ever give her because, on just that very day, her mom had given her the gift of strength.
"Soon I began to see my mom's gifts all the time, like when I'm surfing, which my mom encouraged me to do. By learning to watch for these gifts, my sad tears turn into happy tears, and even some laughs, which Mom would love. The bracelet that formerly brought a bittersweet joy brings me true, constant joy now as I realize that life does go on when you keep memories alive."
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A father's gift in Mom's memory
Then one year it did come true. However, it was far more bittersweet than it might otherwise seem—because her father's gift was intended to help her grieve the loss of Cat's mom, who had passed away the previous spring. "It was an incredible gift after a huge loss," Cat says. And although it did not take away the pain of the loss, it gave her something to love, forming an emotional bridge to her childhood and her beloved mother. And for this gift, Cat will be forever grateful.
"I named my horse Frank's Insurance Policy, after my dad, Frank, who was an insurance salesman. We called her Frankie for short, and I'm offering this story to you," Cat told Reader's Digest, "in honor of my father, who more than 35 years later is still alive and nearing his 90th year."
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A husband who colors outside the lines
Fast forward to today. Amanda is 40, and she and her husband are about to celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary, but guess what? She still has those markers, and she not only uses them all the time to make art, she has also used them to teach her own children to love art. "They still work, at least most of them," Amanda says, "which is truly amazing." And her kids have used them as a jumping-off point, adding Crayola markers, paint, and colored pencils to their arsenal of art tools.
It's the gift of creativity that keeps on giving, and that makes it all the more meaningful. If you're into Zodiac signs, then giving one of these gifts can be quite meaningful as well.
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The promise of a honeymoon every single month
"We were married in October of that year, but because of my work schedule and demands, we couldn't take a honeymoon. I love to travel, so it hurt, but I powered through. Then, for Christmas, Jeff gifted me with what he called A Honeymoon a Month for 2016." It included 12 places they'd never been to that they could explore together, and that's what they did. Their destinations included a casino ("We were first time gamblers!"), a resort in Tulum, Mexico, Beer City, USA ("aka Asheville, North Carolina"), our state capital ("Raleigh, North Carolina"), and the place where we fell in love ("Philly").
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Paige Arnof-Fenn, 52, of Cambridge, Massachusetts, wants it to be known that every single gift her husband has ever given her is incredibly meaningful. THAT being said, the most meaningful gift she ever received came from her middle goddaughter and her family.
"I'd been lobbying for a photo album for years," she says, by which she means a photo album that organized the many, many family photos she'd accumulated over the years, all of them in boxes, disc drives, and hard drives of computers. "I know it's a labor of love, and on my 40th birthday, when it didn't materialize, I realized it was time to stop bugging everyone about it."
Then Christmas rolled around, and Paige's goddaughter acted as "elf," handing out gifts and placing a box on Paige's lap with a smile so huge, it was clear she was "barely able to contain her excitement." Inside the box? "One of those digital picture frames, and it was filled with literally hundreds of photographs, even photographs from before she was born. It was such an amazing surprise," Paige says. But what was truly overwhelming was turning it on and watching "this is your life" scroll before my eyes.
The gift of time
Alan fought cancer for nearly four of his five years, but by September of 2012, it was time for Alan to begin hospice. In a show of love and support, Judy's San Antonio yoga classmates arranged a special photo shoot with Elizabeth, whom Judy had always wanted to hire to photograph the family once "Alan got better." Elizabeth gifted her time and talents, and the yoga community chipped in to create an album of the photos. Shortly after that, Judy saw that Elizabeth was booking Santa photos during the month of November. In a show of faith, Judy booked a session, and although the sessions are normally just for kids, Elizabeth spent extra time with the Sanders family to get photos of them as a family.
When Alan passed in January, Elizabeth and Trey printed and framed half a dozen photos from both sessions for display at his memorial service. And many of the photos from the shoots have been used by the St. Baldrick's Foundation, a volunteer-powered charity committed to funding the most promising research to find cures for childhood cancers and give survivors long, healthy lives, and Alan posthumously became one of the five St Baldrick's 2014 Ambassadors (he'll forever be known as St. Baldrick's Ambassador Alan) and still appears on their website, in their pamphlets, and at various of their events.
"We love to think of this as Alan photobombing from Heaven," says Judy. "We can't thank Elizabeth and Trey enough for these opportunities and for their most recent fundraising to support childhood cancer research in Alan's memory. And of course, we will always cherish the memories of these photos."
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